4.29.2013

Deep Thoughts With Beth


Hello.

This post is being written on the assumption that some of you are still out there and haven't completely given up hope on me. :)

I know this blog has gradually become less and less frequent over the past several months and, to be honest, it's been a source of frustration for me. I started writing it years ago as something to supplement my Etsy store, but I quickly found that I wanted it to be more than that; to be, in essence, what blogs were originally intended to be: an outlet for sharing tidbits of my life (in particular my love of vintage) with anyone who might want to read about it.

It sounds so simple, right? Just a natural outpouring of things you love, writing about them like you're sharing them with your best friends. But in the past year or so, I have to say I've become a bit disenchanted with the world of blogging, and I've wanted to write this post so many times, but have struggled with how to word it. So here goes...

I used to have a long list of blogs I read on a daily basis because I found inspiration from them. It was fun being exposed to new images, creative DIY projects and the curated collections of other thrifters. Then I started noticing a pattern: posts about sponsorships, product reviews, media kits...and it felt like I was back in the world of publishing! And I guess blogs have become the new source of information (essentially living e-zines), so it makes sense that companies have zeroed in on this as an advertising platform.

But because some blogs have "made it big," have partnerships with coveted companies and are able to make a living from blogging, it's created this culture where it seems that's the reason people most people are starting to write them now. And it just makes me sad, especially after having conversations with people who either write or read blogs and say (and I quote) "I feel bad about myself after reading them," either because they feel they're not stylish enough, creative enough or whatever ways they compare themselves to these online personas who seem to have it all.

And that just makes me go from sad to kind of mad, you know? Mostly because I've been there. I've had my moments of wishing my blog would become known around the world; of coveting the seemingly seamless lives of other bloggers; of wishing I could just get the attention of that trendy company and show them I could be a valuable contributor; and on and on and on.

And that's when I started taking a step back.

For the past several months I've taken some time to rethink why I was keeping a blog, and how I could just strip it down to what I wanted it to be. No planning posts a week (or more) in advance; no feeling like I have to write a post every single day and sacrifice quality for quantity. Just back to the basics: Sharing things from my life as they happen, what's happening on the online and mobile Parsimonia business fronts, recipes the hubs and I are scarfing down, and other bits of randomness as they come up.

So, from here on out, that's what you can expect from me — and I'm really excited about it! I hope that we've connected enough to keep you coming around, even if it's not every day, but if not, that I appreciate the time you have spent reading these posts. :)


To start things off in this new chapter, I thought I'd let you know that I'm going to be fairly absent in the next 11 days (ha!). Some of you might remember I'm organizing an event called Spring Fling in the City on May 11, showcasing local vintage sellers and some handmade sellers that use vintage materials in their creations.

And since this is my first time taking on such an endeavor, I am throwing all of my time in that direction. So if you're local to St. Louis (or nearby) and aren't doing anything that weekend, I would love to meet you and see your smiling faces! If you're busy but know people in the area, please do invite them via the Facebook event page to help spread the word!

And if you've read this whole post, pretend I've just put a smiley face sticker on your shirt. ;-)

20 comments:

  1. Beth, I think you have probably spoken for a lot of people who may have given up blogging for the reasons you mentioned. Keep inviting up into your life, please! With frequent updates on Sadie :)

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    1. Haha, thank you! And Puppy Love will certainly stay alive. Sadie has become a bit of a camera hog, so I think she'd be offended if I didn't keep posting photos of her!

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  2. Great post! Im wearing my smiley face. :)

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  3. Beth, I love this post. I couldn't agree with you more. My own blog following list has been edited to just a few for some of the very reasons you mentioned. Thank you for being you and not a sell out. I'll take substance over quantity and sponsorships any time!

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    1. Thanks, lady! I really appreciate that! :)

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  4. I'll keep enjoying your blog - the smiley face sticker is perfect !

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  5. I agree. There are several blogs I've stopped following because they become obsessed with ads or sponsored give-a-ways. I've even been harassed by a sponsor who didn't get that "no means no" and I have a little blog! :) It's crazy! Thanks for putting your feelings out there on the subject - clearly we agree!

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    1. Thank you! It's good to know that others share these thoughts! :)

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  6. Beth, I LOVE your blog! I love to see your dog, your food, your thrifts, whatever. You're like a one-way pen pal! :) And I really wish I was in STL to go to the Spring Fling. Pour some thrift on the ground in my memory. Ha

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    1. You are too funny, Anna! Thank you for following along. Wish you could be here for the Fling, as well! I'll be sure to do a little extra shopping in your honor. ;-)

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  7. The thrift finds are my favorite! I agree with a lot of what you are saying, I am also feeling overwhelmed - trying to keep up with etsy, blog, pinterest, pinning etsy stuff, making things, taking pictures, commenting on others. It's hard to keep up. But I guess this is the price we pay for having little online businesses- the easier it is to get a tiny shop, the more we have to work to stand out, ESPECIALLY with vintage, I think. It's hard. I'm thinking of quitting it, really. But that makes me sad too. Hmm. I guess you're finding your happy medium, and I'm going to have to find one too! Thanks for the inspiration!

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    1. It's true! Having an online business these days is challenging in so many ways! I hope you're able to find a middle ground that leaves you space for sanity! :-)

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  8. Hi Beth. Tina here of Gold Country Girls. My sister Heidi started our blog and has recently been going crazy trying to post everyday. (I post on Weds). I told her to relax and stop trying to be everything to the blogging world and she is attempting to do that now. Yes, it would be nice to be recognized but there are so many blogs now it is ridiculous. I love to write about our small town histories in the gold country and I feel sad when hardly anyone (even friends and family) comments, but when someone does who really appreciates what I have done it makes up for it. My smiley face sticker is winking at you. Tina

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    1. Hey Tina! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope your sister is able to find that balance as well. And that you guys enjoy writing what you put up there, even if no one comments. Because I feel like that's what counts these days, you know?

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  9. Thanks for the deep thoughts Beth. They echo my own.

    I don't feel so lame now. So, yeah, thanks for that - you're awesome :)

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  10. Hi, Beth. Thanks for sharing this post. It's such a breath of fresh air to see someone writing about the peculiar pressures of the blogging world! I imagine the great majority of bloggers experience similar discomforts and it's sweet of you to share your disappointments that people are blogging for the wrong reasons. The thing that most struck me (I kept a blog of art exhibition reviews- for only about 4 months) was how polluted the social part of blogging, and other types of social media, has become. Most bloggers probably have at least some meaningful exchanges with followers- of which you seem to have quite a few!- but then again a lot of comments you see on blogs are self-promotional. That made me sad on my own blog. Like you and Tina's sister, Heidi, I tried to strictly schedule my posts and ultimately found that it altered my blogging style in a way I didn't like. This was one of the reasons I quit. I'm pleased to see that you're not! I think your response to this issue has a lot of integrity.

    In short, I'll be back for more of your posts. :)

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  11. Just came across your post so true. Thanks for sharing! Great blog btw

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